For those who deal with disordered eating thoughts, food guilt or just eating issues in general Christmas time or any social outing that includes a vast array of delicious and perhaps not necessarily the healthiest of foods can be a big struggle.
But what happens when you finally let go of those judgements and become okay with eating the foods you wouldn’t normally eat 90% of the time, and someone else says something? Personally, this is a big issue for me. People say that we all are our own worst critics but I never felt that way. It’s always been an issue for me to deal with the supposed judgements and critic of others in regards to my fitness, health and especially food and eating habits. Whilst 99% of the time no one has a second thought to what I eat or don’t eat, I have always felt like they do care and whatever I’m doing is not good enough. It’s defs not as bad now but it’s still there.
That to me is still a big obstacle I’ve got to overcome- I feel like I can’t enjoy particular ‘fun’ foods in front of others for fear of judgement or even comment. For instance, I know I’ll get:
Ohhh Bek, don’t eat that- what about all the sugar and calories (done so in a funny, joking manner)
Finally relaxing are we Bek?
And honestly, I just can’t let those comments slide like others may be able to. I also think this fear of eating foods in front of others can be connected to binge eating as one will want to do it in secret and out of sight of others- therefore it will signal binge like behaviours and might create a repercussion of ‘oh well might as well go all out with the binge now’. But that’s a whole other topic.
But how do become being ‘okay’ with these remarks?
- I guess putting it into perspective is one thing- these people we are surrounded by love us and the comments aren’t meant to be judgemental or harsh (people aren’t as bad as we are to ourselves).
- Get use to it. Like anything, the more people see us enjoy food and eat foods we don’t normally eat, the less there will be a need to comment.
- Have a comeback- don’t be rude or defensive but maybe something like ‘yeah moderation is the key’ or ‘no harm in enjoying some of ____ every now and again’. Basically just reiterate the healthy balance lifestyle you’re setting out to live.
This is definitely something I want to work on over these holidays. I want to be able to enjoy dessert without worrying someone will say something. But even if they do, I want, well really I have to be okay with it- or I’m likely to be encouraging some bingeing behaviours or I’ll be depriving myself of something I want for silly reasons.
So don’t be silly this silly season, enjoy some pie/trifle/chocolate/jelly/cheesecake/cake (or all of the above ha) and deal with whatever else comes with it.
- Do you ever stress about people commenting on your food or eating habits?
- How do you deal with the ‘oh you’re eating ___ for once’ or ‘oh no (insert name), all those calories in that (insert deliciousness)?