Never Assume

Hey lovelies! How’s your day going?

It’s the first chance I’ve had to myself to actually sit and jump on the computer, so I’ve been a bit busy.

I’ve had a morning Body Step class to teach, errands to run and a therapist appointment to get to. As well as another appointment to check out a venue for my 21st. Yes, it’s not till June- but you’ve got to get a kickstart on these things before they book out.

Before we get into anything, what did you think about my earlier post on- Clean Eating or Just a Healthy Lifestyle? I know you guys know your stuff so I always love your feedback.

Actually, I can’t say I actually know for sure that you know your stuff because that might not be the case at all. Check out Lindsay’s recent post on this.




It had me reflecting on my blogging style and possibly adjust the way I post and deliver information. I’m definitely guilty of marginalising parties that aren’t educated or knowledgeable in the areas of health and fitness. And I guess that’s my fault for making that assumption.

If this is you (you’re not the health and fitness savviest), that makes me pretty excited, because obviously you have some interest in learning about it all since you’re reading my blog (unless you just dig my quirky posts ha!)- and that’s the first step! And hopefully I can help and join you for the journey.

Anyways, lets talk about my therapist appointment..

It went really well and we discussed many of the issues I shared with you the other day.

He was really pleased that my body rebelled the way I did (that makes one of us) when I contemplated giving up grains, because it was a sign that it obviously was not for me. Although he couldn’t and wouldn’t stop me, he is very against me doing anything restrictive in nature and would go against me ever eliminating grains in the future. He said it’s kind of a huge thing to do (well yuh) and a very restrictive move that will very likely lead me back into restrictive, ED and unhealthy eating habits.

He also felt that it is likely that my body dissatisfaction caused me to go to this drastic and inventive measure because I’m already doing so much (in terms of diet and exercise) for my health. However, even with all that work I’m still not satisfied with it, therefore I felt the need to go to greater measures in hope that I will be.

I did get a big kudos though for challenging some of my avoidance behaviours and really wants me to start working on breaking that ‘time barrier’.

You know the one where you listen to the clock to eat, not your body. And you fight your bodies natural signals for fuel, because the clock doesn’t indicate the right time. Yep, that one.

Making myself responsible here, I’ll be honest in saying that this really scares me (mind my french- shitless). It’s not that I can’t just change the times and eat whenever, it’s that I won’t. And I won’t because I’m petrified. I need some sort of stepping stone or situation where I can begin challenging it in small ways before progressing to bigger challenges. This is where I need YOUR help.




  • How can I challenge my ‘eating to the time’ habits?
  • Do you consider yourself to be health and fitness savvy?
  • What things health and fitness related would you like to see more of from Crave?


  1. Michelle says:

    Hey Bek!

    A few suggestions:
    * Move your set eating times back just half an hour
    * Tell yourself you’ll try it for a week – eating when you’re hungry. If after a week you’re not happier and more relaxed tell yourself you can go straight back to set meal times.
    * Try it on a day when you’re out of your normal routine. Probably best not to try it when you’re at home all day watching the clock

    Lastly I don’t think it’s moving the meal times or discarding set times that scares you. As you say, you can easily do it. What seems to be scaring you is the panic you will feel afterwards. If you can manage the panic, you can do this. That’s where your therapist can come in (is it a psychologist you’re seeing).

    Hope this helps, even just a little bit.
    Hang in there – the very fact you DONT want to eat to the clock anymore is the first sign you’re moving away from doing it.

    I believe in you!
    X Michelle

    • BekatCrave says:

      Fantastic suggestions Michelle! Okay, I think I’ll pick a day when I’m relaxed and at home so I don’t have to worry about how much food to pack for work. I’m so nervous but I know it’s for the best.

      It definitely does help. I think I’ll attempt it next Monday and document my day and eating to see how ‘different’ it is from a typical day etc. And maybe even share it on a blog post with the associated feelings, thoughts, winges haha.

      Aw thanks Michelle!

      Ps. Stay safe in the storm (another biggie is on its’ way)

  2. Michelle says:

    One more thing – if trying it for a week seems too much at first, maybe try 2 days a week. For example, stick to your set times every day except Monday and Thursday when you try eating intuitively (only you can know what days are best to try this).

    You may be pleasantly surprised you eat LESS on these days. At first you may eat more. But eventually listening to your body will seem so easy and natural, even though that seems a long way off, that you won’t be able to restrict yourself to set times anymore.


    • BekatCrave says:

      I think that’s a big scary thing for me- the fact that I might eat more. I need to accept that somedays I’ll eat more and others I may eat less. Eeek scary things for a routine-stricken chick haha ;)

      Thanks again x

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