This post comes from a talk I had with my therapist yesterday. It got me to thinking- when we are unhappy with our bodies or perhaps we like this but want to change this…when does that end? This stemmed from our conversation about the fact that I was happy with some things but wanted to improve on other things (all in regards to my body). He asked me- when does that end?
If my goal is ‘to tone up that area’ or slim it out, how do I know when I reach that place? And then what? Will this need to constantly improve ever end? It’s so subjective, in that we often unfairly judge ourselves and perhaps have a sense of dysmorphia when we look at our bodies in the mirror. So what then, do we base it on measurements or the scales? An objective number to guide us. For me this is a total no-go. My history with the scales is not pretty and as my therapist recalled it is all wrapped up in emotional feelings. Those ‘objective’ measurements would be detrimental to my recovery and my work on getting a healthy mindset.
So we have ourselves in a little predicament. Many of us want to make slight alterations, if not huge changes, to our bodies. But what do we do once we reach that place (even if we are already there and don’t realise) or how do we know?
This is where the therapist handed over to me- What will you do Rebecca? And I, thanks to my rational thinking, came to the conclusion that we must accept our bodies as they are. Flaws and all. Because only then, will we be happy with them. We need to accept our bodies now- even with the extra bit of fat we may have around our bellies, the cellulite we may have on our legs or the stretchmarks we may have on our bottoms. Love it all. Because once you accept your body for what it is, then your body will be able to change. Work with your body and not against it.
This acceptance of your body should begin now, and should remain as your body undergoes changes- whether it be during pregnancy, as we age or as we get leaner. Accept your body in all forms. Don’t strive to change your body, strive to maintain it. Some of you may be reading this thinking- I’ve got 10 kgs to go, so what just give up losing weight? Nope that’s not what I mean. When you accept your body, you love it- so you won’t want to change it, but you can improve what you’ve got. Not totally disregard, or wish for someone elses- but make yours the best it can be.
But before that can all happen we need to accept our bodies.
Do you accept your body? What is one step you can take for body acceptance?
Daily Healthy Thought: I accept my body!!!